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My parents told me I could be a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure.
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That’s so sad. You can be anything you want!! Your parents should be proud of you no matter what you do for a job.
This conversation is really true with parents, expecially Asian parents .
I went to school thinking if I don’t get a very very good grade I will end up on the streets. That was my thinking from 5th class and up.
I am happy that you could pursue what you really like and makes you happy.
As an Asian I feel like perfectionism that has been a huge part of our culture has hurt a lot of my mental state, that’s y I just had to stop all my ed for quite a bit to get back up not worrying of what I need to do. Now I can focus on what I truly want ^^ I’m really glad I saw this comment nd vid 😀 thnx!
“ Especially Asian “ have you not met Mexican parents?! There just as bad if not worse!
@MIAAAAA Italian too-
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They should support whatever she wants, she is going to rebel if you don’t give her a chance to do what she wants.❤️❤️
Those parents just want the money that a doctor would make
I know it’s kinda sad when you can’t follow your own dreams due to your parents didn’t support what you love, but this are so common among asian parents. My parents actually want me to become a doctor but I’m so grateful that they still support and allow me to follow my dreams as a designer interior. But I do understand why they want us to become a doctor or lawyer (high profile jobs that makes so much money), because the world is so harsh and jobs are so hard to find these days but doctor/lawyer (for example) are jobs that quite easier getting a lot of salary. But our parents especially asian parents were a lot more experience went it comes to the ‘real world of jobs’. They work so hard to get where they are now, they work so hard for us, and for our future so that the children’s future are safe especially getting a job. So they want us to become doctor/lawyer, so that we can have a financial secure and don’t have to struggle like our parents because they don’t want us to struggle like them not because they want the money, but because they want us to have a ‘safe and secure’ future.
This is normal with Asian parents. And no, it’s not because they want their kids’ money for themselves, it’s because they want their kids to be financially stable and live a good life. If you study to become doctors, lawyers, engineers, etc, you’re pretty much guaranteed a job (as opposed to doing an arts degree, for example), so that’s why they push their kids into those fields.
And this is normal IN Asian countries too, not just with Asian parents who have migrated to the west
@Kay exactly!!
Aww, you must be super proud of yourself. You made it this far and still setting higher and higher bars ever! Hail Cassey sissy💖💫
I agree, you should follow your dreams no matter what your surroundings say to try change it. Its your life! 🙂
The reason that Asian parent want their children is because they know what it’s like back where they immigrated. These are the jobs that give you lots of money so you don’t end up on the “street” and so you can have a good life. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do what you want to do but I’m just explaining why.
Be who you want to be, and that goes for everyone <3
I totally relate having Asian parents. I don’t think it’s all about the “prestige” associated with those careers but rather the financial security. Because they know that their children will make a comfortable living in those careers that is rather low risk than actually pursuing a passion and paving one’s own path. I think a lotttt of it is fear based/scarcity mentality especially if they’ve come from humble beginnings because they know what it’s like to struggle and they don’t want to see their child go through it. But it’s also hard on the child because it’s impossible to stick it out in medicine if that’s not the career of one’s own choosing.
This is the reason I’m so conflicted rn. Ik that what they’re saying is for my benefit but at the same time I wanna pursue what I want. But my main problem is that I’m not sure if I’m committed enough to my goals. It’s kinda hard 🥲
Yes!! The reason that Asian parent want their children is because they know what it’s like back where they immigrated. These are the jobs that give you lots of money so you don’t end up on the “street” and so you can have a good life. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do what you want to do but I’m just explaining why.
I remember during the 2007 recession I was 18-19 and my dad told me he had known people who were doctors and lawyers and still ended up homeless.
As a second generation Asian… I felt this on so many levels.. I’m happy you followed your dreams and did what made you happy ❤
As an Asian child , I can totally understand your feeling . Only difference was , I wasn’t good @ anything , so I ended up walking down the path my parents wished me to. Now my parents started to regret seeing how much I didn’t enjoy and apologised .
Everyone: Focusing on the story
Me: Proud that I recognized the song is Cimorelli’s version😌
actually it isn’t! it’s by sarah cothran on tiktok!!
Wow!! So that’s how you got into fitness training! I’m really grateful to you too take a break and exercise the gym owner who helped you ❤️ now you’re inspiring many ✨
Ow girl. I really needed this. My dad doesn’t believe in the job I took. But for the moment I wanna believe in myself and give it a try with all I got.
This past days I was doubting my job and I didn’t think I got what it takes for it… Idk. But this video make me happy for you, and make me a little less scared about life. Thank you ♥️
The fact that you weren’t even into biology and still made it that far in the field is mindblowing ❤ and I’m saying that as someone who likes biology and is average at it. But I’m so glad you found something you genuinely enjoyed and wanted to make a career out of. Plus it’s waaay healthier for you physically and mentally. Proud of you❤
The reason that Asian parent want their children is because they know what it’s like back where they immigrated. These are the jobs that give you lots of money so you don’t end up on the “street” and so you can have a good life. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do what you want to do but I’m just explaining why.
I relate to this too much 🙁 asian parents are usually so harsh since they had humble beginnings, especially if they’re an immigrant so they know what it’s like to not have much and don’t want the same for their kids. As valid and reasonable as that is, they fail to account for how taxing those kind of jobs are for their kids and how much they’d struggle mentally from them. Personally, if I had kids, as unlikely as it is, I would let them choose what they want to do and support them. I have so much respect for healthcare workers for dealing with distraught families and seeing people die everyday. I know that I would damn well buckle under the pressure. Lawyers as well, from what I’ve seen in lawyers I’ve met, the burnout is strong in the law industry. Asian parents usually don’t think of the effects these kinds of jobs have on mental health, and think that lots of money=good happy life, which in most cases isn’t true.
Tldr; I understand that asian parents want the best for their kids and for them to live comfortably, but they usually don’t think of the effects that the job has on their mental health.
As a parent I am going to try my best to be as understanding and supportive of my kids. Living now in a place where there are farmers, police officers, business owners, teachers, welders, construction workers, nurses, bank tellers etc all living pretty decent and happy lives..my kids can do whatever they want to as long as they are happy & safe. They don’t need to be rich to be happy.
As a kid, I thought I wanted to be a doctor because my parents would tell everyone I wanted to be one. When in school I realized I love the science but I didn’t want to be one. Parents were not happy I dropped out Med school… They weren’t happy with me during my search years of what I wanted, they are still not happy I ended in finance🤷🏻♀️
Well I’m glad you found your calling and stuck with it. As upset as your family may have been at first I’m sure they are super proud of you now with all that you have accomplished and all that you are on your way to accomplish.
I was also told I could be a doctor or lawyer. My other two options were nurse or military intelligence lol. I went to nursing school but my heart had only ever been with being a wife and mother. I left school and I’m with the man of my dreams. We just had our son and couldn’t be happier. ❤️
What do your parents think now? I’m sure they were just worried about you having financial security, my mom was the same way growing up. She never wanted me to struggle or have to depend on a man so she pushed me….which kind of backfired, but that’s a story for another time. Even if your parents haven’t told you, I have no doubt that they couldn’t be more proud of the woman you have become. 😁